“The burden of forgiveness should lie with the one causing the harm. Earn forgiveness; do not demand it.” ~LMB There is immense societal pressure to “forgive” others—especially those who have caused the most harm. What you rarely hear, however, is the expectation that those who cause harm must earn forgiveness. Why don’t we demand accountability from those […]
Is This Pattern Making Your Problems Worse?
“Explaining why you did something doesn’t erase the impact, repair the hurt, or change the outcome.” ~LMB Have you fallen into the habit of explaining your actions rather than repairing the hurt those actions caused? Do any of these responses sound familiar? Spouse: “I’m disappointed that I can’t count on you to follow through on what […]
How Protecting Harmful Behavior Fuels the Cycle
“Your protection quickly becomes your complicity when what you protect is harmful; don’t be complicit.” ~LMB Ideally, protection aims to stop the harmful behavior done to an often weaker, more vulnerable “target.” Hurtful behavior occurs when an offender uses words, actions, position, or power to abuse, shame, threaten, or harm that “target.” “Protecting” the offender, however, is […]