“The burden of forgiveness should lie with the one causing the harm. Earn forgiveness; do not demand it.” ~LMB There is immense societal pressure to “forgive” others—especially those who have caused the most harm. What you rarely hear, however, is the expectation that those who cause harm must earn forgiveness. Why don’t we demand accountability from those […]
Leaving Past Hurts in the Past is Vital for a Healthy Future
Time and again I watch couples struggle to move on from past hurts. Sometimes, the difficulty is due to a lack of remorse, accountability and repair by the partner who caused the hurt (a topic for a different post). Other times, however, the person has been remorseful and has done their best to repair the […]
Stop Obsessing and Let it Go
Sometimes people can throw you a curve ball. They can do something so hurtful that it knocks you off your feet and sends you reeling. And, without doubt, these events can rock you to your core. They can leave you obsessing about them, raging about them and scratching your head trying to explain them. Sometimes, […]