Ignoring the pink elephant in the living room makes the living room uninhabitable over time. ~LMB The “pink elephant” phenomenon is a common term used in the field of addiction that speaks to the frequent pattern of minimizing the seriousness of a person’s addiction—even as it’s wreaking havoc all around them. In essence, this massive […]
Radically New Relationships: Communication Mastery
“Communication mastery can only happen when you focus on the process, not the content.” ~LMB Often, when I stress to clients the importance of being calm, grounded, and respectful when speaking to one another, their knee-jerk response is some version of, “Omg, no one talks like that.” And this is how the conversation goes from […]
Transforming Your Relationships: From ‘Protecting Me’ to ‘Building We’
“Until you move from “protecting me” to “building we,” your relationships will struggle.” ~LMB Relationship struggles are seldom about issues—even though couples swear that the “issue” is the problem: We have no connection and no sex. We differ in our parenting. We are not aligned when it comes to spending and finances. The issues can run […]