Ignoring the pink elephant in the living room makes the living room uninhabitable over time. ~LMB The “pink elephant” phenomenon is a common term used in the field of addiction that speaks to the frequent pattern of minimizing the seriousness of a person’s addiction—even as it’s wreaking havoc all around them. In essence, this massive […]
Be Deliberate About Accurately Placing Blame Where It Lies
Our world is dangerously backward when it comes to the concept of blame: Victims are to blame for the actions of perpetrators Children are blamed for a parent’s rage Employees are said to be responsible for setting the culture in companies Women are hailed as responsible for the violence of men The betrayed are to […]
Stop Being Dismissive in Your Relationships…NOW
Dismissiveness seems to be a common problem in relationships, although if you were to ask people if they see themselves as dismissive, many would say no. When people minimize, ignore or defend against someone else’s feelings, upsets or concerns, they are being dismissive. The underlying message with dismissiveness is, “That’s a silly thing to think/worry/be […]