“If you have to re-word, justify, or “clean-up” someone’s words, chances are those words were not OK. Listen to the actual words spoken, not what you think, wish, or convince yourself was meant.” ~LMB A common habit I see with couples and quite frankly, our world right now is people excusing, changing, or explaining the […]
How to Courageously Own Your Mistakes
“Justifying, minimizing, or defending your actions, turns small mistakes into big problems. Repair the other person’s pain rather than protecting your ego.” ~LMB If a friend, family member, lover, or colleague comes to you in a place of upset about something you did, it’s your job to do what you can to help them. It’s not […]
Moving from Defensiveness to Accountability
“Responding to someone’s upset by defending, explaining, or minimizing is a bad move every time. Change your moves.” ~LMB Defending your actions seems to have become the new “in” thing to do in relationships these days. The problem, however, is that defensiveness absolutely kills relationships. One of the most common struggles individuals have is defensiveness. If […]