“Responding to someone’s upset by defending, explaining, or minimizing is a bad move every time. Change your moves.” ~LMB Defending your actions seems to have become the new “in” thing to do in relationships these days. The problem, however, is that defensiveness absolutely kills relationships. One of the most common struggles individuals have is defensiveness. If […]
Building Your Accountability Muscles
People have this fantasy that “if only” their partner was kind, or respectful or caring or … (fill in the blank), their relationship would be great; this is not how relationships work. The idea that your relationship would be fine or easy “if only” your partner…, is a convenient way of taking the responsibility of […]
The Gifts of Being Accountable
One of the most common struggles I see in relationships is the struggle to be accountable. It seems that people have a truly hard time acknowledging their mistakes without defending, rationalizing or explaining why they did what they did. As you can imagine, not being willing to be accountable does not bode well for relationships. […]