Recently, while at a workshop with my long time mentor Terry Real, I was struck by his comment:  “It is co-dependant when you back away from functional behaviors because of fear of your partner’s dysfunctional behavior.”  I immediately started to chuckle when I heard this because I know so many of us do it.   […]

    “As to diseases, Make a habit of two things— To help, or at least do no harm.” Hippocrates, The Epidemics   I’m often struck by the way so many of us treat our loved ones compared to how we treat strangers on the street or acquaintances.  It seems that often it’s our loved […]

  I receive e-mails, blog comments, and inquiries from women and men all the time describing miserable relationships and poor treatment.    For example:   * “I have 5 kids by my husband and he has two with another woman.  I have reason to believe she is pregnant again.  He is with her every other […]