There are so many conflicting messages in the world about relationships that people don’t know what to expect or even hope for in their relationships.  On the one side we hear that relationships are hard work and at the other end we hear that if you marry your soul mate, everything should be smooth sailing. […]

In my work with couples throughout the years, I’ve been amazed by how little partners talk with one another.  Sure, there’s the obligatory hello and how was your day, but beyond that there’s very little communicating going on.  Some couples don’t even say hello. I still find this to be surprising and…sad.  I can’t imagine […]

Have you ever found yourself going on and on incessantly about something your partner has done? You’re so angry about something s/he just did you can’t help but bring up every other similar offense s/he has done in the past twenty years. You end up sounding something like this: “I can’t believe you’re late AGAIN!!! […]