Enabling:  to provide somebody with the resources, authority, or opportunity to do something.-Encarta Dictionary Enabling is a term used to describe behaviors that allow other behaviors to continue.  It’s often used in the addiction world to describe the endless ways a non-addict partner enables or assists the addict’s addiction.  Enabling behaviors can include: putting the […]

Over the years I can’t tell you how many women I’ve worked with who’ve talked about their decision to say yes to their husband’s advances simply to avoid his upset, pressure, anger or pouting.  Some believe they are obligated to provide sex to their husband as the wife; they give in because it is their […]

Why is it that so many people bring their best selves into their relationships with anybody and everybody except their partners?  They’re funny with their friends, on top of things at work, loving to their children…and cranky, lazy, distant and serious with their partners. Busy schedules, long days, small disagreements, snappy comments…and before you know […]