Over the years I’ve seen many people get married for the wrong reasons. Some women get married thinking that will stop their boyfriend from cheating. Others may marry to calm their partner’s jealousies. Many people marry believing it will solve the problems in their relationship.
Unfortunately, none of these ever work.
You see there’s a funny thing about marriage…rather than changing things or people, it just intensifies what’s already there. If you’re partner has a drinking problem prior to marriage, chances are s/he will have an even bigger drinking problem after marriage. If you’re partner’s a flirt and untrustworthy before the big day, do NOT expect that to stop after the big day. Marriage intensifies the good and the bad. If the bad is intolerable now…fix it before you get married or move on.
This is also true regarding children. Please do not be naïve and think, even for a moment, that bringing children into a troubled marriage will fix it. That’s crazy thinking and detrimental to families.
Stop looking for the quick fix. If you have problems in your relationship, solve them. Get help, set limits, put the relationship on the line if need be…but DON”T SETTLE and don’t look for a miracle. Marriage is not the answer for a bad relationship…it’s a nightmare.
CHALLENGE: If you’re currently in a relationship that is not working, make sure you do whatever it takes to strengthen it before you begin to think about taking it to the next level via marriage or children. If it doesn’t change and get stronger no matter what you do, have the courage to find a relationship that will be strong and healthy; you’ll thank yourself in the long run and so will your future children.