All individuals have the right to be treated respectfully at all times in all situations. Learn to live by this value, regardless of how other people are behaving. This cornerstone is often met with mixed reviews, with a number of people not agreeing with it at all. When I speak to couples about this, I […]
HOLDING GRUDGES: IF IT’S HISTORY, LEAVE IT IN THE PAST
Repeatedly reminding your partner of what they did in the past that was hurtful, especially when they are no longer doing it, is holding a grudge – a detrimental move at best. Bringing the past into the present is seldom a helpful dynamic in relationships; it stirs up old wounds, leads to one partner believing […]
RAGE: IT’S NOT JUST MEN
Although I have talked a great deal about women who silence, I want to be clear that not all women silence. In fact, some women do quite the opposite – they rage. Most of them, however would not call what they do “rage”; they yell, scream, slam doors and say things they shouldn’t, but “rage” […]