I was just reading a blog about anger management. The blog is: http://www.daybreakservices.com/blog/
For those of you who struggle with anger, you may want to check this blog out. It has a lot of helpful tips to help control your anger and the writing is short and succinct.
Speaking about anger, there seems to be a common belief that anger is bad. I hear people say they know they shouldn’t be angry but they can’t help it, or they know anger is bad but…
First off, anger is a healthy emotion; in fact, all emotions are healthy. The fact that we can feel such a large range of emotions just means we’re human. No one emotion is right or wrong, it just is. The same is true for anger. It’s not “bad” to feel angry, it just is. It’s an emotional state that we all experience at some time or other–not good, not bad, not right, not wrong.
What can be right or wrong however, is how we express our emotions in our actions. So, while feeling angry is perfectly okay and human in fact, raging and being verbally or physically abusive is not. Similarly, although being excited and joyful is great, going out and cheating on your partner to celebrate is not. It’s not the emotions that hurt our relationships; it’s what we do with those emotions.
In essence, there is no emotion that is in itself bad, it is only the actions we choose to take because of that emotion that gets us in trouble. The golden rule with emotions is to feel them (don’t stuff them) and RESPECTFULLY express them. That’s it. Stay respectful.
Often our emotions have a message for us; pay attention to what that message might be and act accordingly. When you act, do so with moderation and respect.
Remember the impact your behavior has on those around you–it’s not all about you.
CHALLENGE: Focus this week on allowing yourself to feel the emotions that come up for you and make a commitment to have your actions, in response to the emotions, be moderate and respectful at all times.